A few weeks back when I was doing the anti-racism training, I accidentally blundered into a wedding reception that was going on in the same building. The building was a seminary with a chapel. And as tempting as it is to chase that white rabbit, so to speak, I'll ignore the possible comedic irony of a wedding and anti-racism training going on at the same time in the same building.
I remember commenting that there was dancing at this particular anti-racist wedding (sorry, I had to chase the white rabbit after all) to one of the other Seaburians. It came as quite a shock to her that I do not think I have ever been to a wedding where there was dancing afterwards. Her reaction was just the opposite. She thought I was joking because she had never been to a wedding that had not had dancing.
I did not really think much about that particular misadventure again until yesterday when another friend of mine was discussing upcoming nuptials. The same conversation ensued with the same reaction: "You've got to be kidding me! Why wouldn't you dance at a wedding?" I found that to be an interesting question really. I've been to dozens of weddings; I was even the best man at one of them back in December, but I have still never been to a wedding with dancing.
I got to thinking about that. Being the end of the term, thinking about anything other than papers and moving out boxes from my dormroom is a worthwhile usage of time. Why is it exactly I have never been to a wedding without dancing? Are my friends and family all Puritanical freaks? Are we too cheap to hire a DJ? I don't particularly think those are correct assumptions. The conclusion I finally came up with was that it must be a Southern cultural thing.
At Southern Fried Weddings, dancing ain't dignified...